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Repost: What does every Jewish home needs? A kosher sex room thats what

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A repost from over a year ago.

This is probably bound to get a like of hideous people who do those damnable google searches trying to find frum porn or the like. However we feel that well…we already get plenty of those so therefore so what? As we were together we got to thinking about a smart aleck comment I made about ‘Jews should have a seperate room off their master bedroom for a sex room so they can lock it up and keep the kids out’. Well that off the wall comment brought us to some very serious thoughts. Let’s face it; this might not apply to married couples who don’t have kids and also do not have family members who walk into their home uninvited. This would be for those who do have relatives who come in the door without announcing themselves and have kids. So, why a “Kosher Sex Room”? I mean don’t we have enough rooms that we want? We all want a 2nd Kitchen for Pesach, a Shabbas Playroom for the Kids (see Basement uses), extra bathrooms for the amount of kids you have (and in Flatbush its usually more girls than boys at home and we all know that girls from HS and above need to put on the makeup and blitz the zits and zap the pits to already get on the right lists), and can’t forget the study, the large living room and dining room, and of course the transforming of closets into bedrooms because you have run out of bedrooms and rooms for the kids.So, this extra room, off the master bedroom, what’s the reason? Let’s count the ways,

* Can lock up so your kids don’t know that Mommy and Daddy can sleep in the same bed
* Can hide the TV and Computer from your kids
* Hide the secular books from your kids
* Turn it into a hideaway from the children and everyone else
* Can make sure that there is complete darkness if you are following that opinion or make it as bright as you want without the kids knowing you are still up.
* Hide the sex toys, porn, and sexual aids that you might use
* Home Videoes of Mommy and Daddy Storage
* Private Pics of Mommy and Daddy Storage
* One word: Soundproofing

Yeah, sounds a bit boring in the end and you can only say that if you could compare it to a sex room for goyim. They have hanging bars, stretching bars, swings, etc and those rooms are never really intended to be a secret – generally they are there until they need to turn it into a nursery.However for us married people without a room to call our own for those two precious weeks we have together, its a nice idea. In this day in age, if you really want to be what you wish in the bedroom with your spouse and do whatever you want how can you? Can you trust your children to not go through drawers that you might leave unguarded? To not find things that you do not want them to see? Or even walk in unknowing? We were making a pointed comment that once our child grows up and gets older that we’ll even need to be quiet during our time together because they might overhear!?! Yes, they don’t make walls like they used to. We always hear our neighbors and I am sure they hear us. So is this kind of room out of the question? Not really, maybe it should be renamed to ‘Mommy and Daddy Private Room’ but that wouldn’t of drawn so many of you to come and read this. Hoping more people comment than lurk for this time around, wondering if anyone feels that only having such a private room will give you that peace of mind to have those things in the house and be whatever you wish to be with your spouse without the children/relatives finding out.


Written by frombrooklyn

August 17, 2008 at 4:58 AM

Posted in Uncategorized

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  1. For pics and videos, get a password protected, or even better, thumbprint reader usb drive.


    August 17, 2008 at 7:02 AM

  2. You could do that but unless you know what you are doing, if the child is tech savy one can easily figure out how to break the passwords or get the passwords by being able to one up their parents. Only way to keep what you want secured is to have a computer no one can touch but you and your wife. Laptops are a better bet with a security lock and multiple layered passcode.


    August 17, 2008 at 6:31 PM

  3. Creating an entire room sounds like way too much bother to me. But then again, I’m the lazy sort. I’m sure people who are the opposite of me would consider it an appealing project. Anyway, here are some simpler ideas I’ve thought of:

    a) if the private room can be locked, why not just lock the master bedroom to begin with? If the kids are old enough to sleep in their own rooms, then I don’t see a problem with locking the parent’s bedroom at night. If the kids are still younger, then how would you manage to retreat into the ‘private’ room and lock it? This doesn’t make any sense to me.

    b) you can have one drawer or closet with a lock that you can store private stuff in.

    c) the whole deal about passwords being easy to break is overrated. Most kids won’t figure out your password, unless you choose something really obvious like your first name or birthday, and well, then you have only yourself to blame. And really, what’s the big deal with simply keeping a (password-protected) laptop in your room and not letting the kids touch it? Get the kids their own computer and then they will have no reason to use yours, especially if you make it clear that you don’t want them using your computer.


    September 1, 2008 at 6:23 AM

  4. Why shouldn’t kids know that Mommy & Daddy sleep in the same bed?!

    Nice Jewish Guy

    September 19, 2008 at 1:42 PM

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