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Would we make a Shidduch with anyone from the Torah?

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Got this email and thought it was very correct. 

Would we make a Shidduch with anyone from the Torah? 

There’s Avrohom Avinu: He seems to be frum but really he’s a BT and his father made idols, not our kind…next. 

Yitzchak Avinu: Well his grandfather made idols, there was all that nastiness with Lot, and is half brother is an arab. 

Yaakov Avinu: His great-grandfather made idols, his brother went off the derech, his mother comes from a very treyfe family and he wasn’t shomer negiah with Rachel Imeinu before they were married and he spent a lot of time with his uncle, who’s mammesh a rasha. 

Yosef HaTzaddik: His mother had an idol once and she died early, plus he’s a slave and his brothers don’t like him, must be something in that, and with all the issues with Avraham Avinu and Yitzchak and Yaakov Avinu…better not to. 

Moshe Rabbeinu: Oy, what a maaseh!!!! His parents separated, then they got back together, his parents abandoned him, put him in a basket, he was raised by goyim…not our kind for sure. He may be close to Hashem but his background is so problematic we wouldn’t want him in our family! 

Calev’s descendants: We don’t want to marry into that family. Enough said.

Dovid HaMelech: Descendants from a Geyoret, not our kind of people. Sure a few generations have gone by but all things being equal, shouldn’t we look for someone with more of a ‘jewish’ background. 

Shlomo HaMelech: See above, all his mother’s marriage was very dubious, he is rich though, but the yichus and family background is very tricky.

Written by frombrooklyn

November 26, 2007 at 6:10 AM

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Can we overcome our institutionalized minds and become better spouses?

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Reading the Jewish Press got to reading an article which for all intents and purposes brings you to the following boiled down point: Not every chasson or kallah teacher teaches wrongly, many of them do teach correctly. However there are many many couples out there who learn from teachers who do not teach the proper aspects of intimate matters between Husband and Wife. So; can we truly learn from the mistakes and  go beyond what we have learned before?  We see the following issue which is probably harming couples everywhere. They learned to do it one way. That one way was not halacha but the opinion or chumras of a Rabbi or Kallah Teacher because they see that sex or intimate matters should only be expressed as they see it. They did not do justice in teaching their pupils and as a result it can lead to either spouse or both spouses from getting the satisfaction that they deserve. So, can we learn to retrain? Sure. There are plenty of therapists that deal with these issues as we can see from reading the Jewish Press and ask our friends in hush tones over the phone or in shul about…but once again we’ll throw up the white flag. Why doesn’t the Frum Jew of today have a book to help with these issues? It’s just as bad as the Flatbush Eruv issue. No Rav can seem to agree.  *screams* 

Written by frombrooklyn

November 25, 2007 at 5:59 AM

New Blogger we think we’ll be enjoying in the future

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It’s refreshing to see a ‘youngster’ actually has common sense.

Check her block out here http://flatbushgal.blogspot.com

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November 15, 2007 at 5:39 AM

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Why does Cosmo seem to be a very popular choice among Jewish Women?

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Seriously, was just thinking of this the other day and my wife couldn’t explain the idea either.

Cosmo the magazine is filled with a lot of ‘shmutz’ if you want to consider it that from a religous perspective in terms of the enviroment in Flatbush. It definately has articles that would be considered risque and that have topics which any single Jewish person is told to avoid altogether. So, the question is, why does it seem popular?

Whenever my wife is at the nail place she sees women wearing it. When I go get the papers from our local store I see women buying it. (mind you women = both single and married) and so on and so on.

Now don’t get me wrong, we don’t think there is anything wrong with the magazine for the most part. We do find that the articles could be informative for the right audiance (but are far too tame or basic for us to read up on) but we are perplexed why Yeshivish/Religious Women in Flatbush think they should read these magazines.

Of course we are also talking about the same group of people who don’t understand that tznius means covering the knees and that you can go to the local library on Ave J and bring home romance novels for fun.

*shrugs*

Written by frombrooklyn

November 12, 2007 at 6:40 PM

I really don’t understand the following; what do Jews have against Gerim and BTs?

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Seriously, missing the point here. Without Gerim or BTs we would of been destroyed ages ago. David HaMelach, Rabbi Akiva, and countless others owe their lives to the Gerim who converted and gave birth to them – forget about the countless BTs who came back to Judiasm and have granted us so much in wisdom.

Just wondering, commentors, what do you have against these Jews?

Written by frombrooklyn

November 1, 2007 at 12:40 AM

Posted in BTs, Gerim, Uncategorized