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Walmart having to cover ‘indecency’ because the Jews want to mingle with the Goyim at Walmart but want to make sure that it is kosher for them to go?

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Orthomom has a story on a Walmart opening up near Monsey and Orthadox Jews who are opposing it.


As one of the commenters in the story said, “The reason a lot of us came to live in Monsey is……away from the influences of the outside world”

Um, excuse me?

We do live in America people. You do know that we aren’t the ones running the show here. It sounded to us that it would seem that the Jews over there don’t want Walmart there because it might affect them…going as much as to get Walmart to hide ‘indecent items’ because it might affect the Jews in the area.

Guess what…if you can’t stand the goyim and get over it then don’t be among them at all. Go do what New Square did. Don’t go around dressing like goying with the denim skirts, pants, jackets. Don’t go around and follow their fashion styles. Don’t use the makeup they make, the hairstyles they have, etc.

You cannot have your cake and eat it to. Don’t go around expecting to have the goyim to change because you want them to due to your ‘sensibilies’. If it bothers you that much then why are you even having any interaction with them at all?

We live in Golus. Learn to deal with the goyim. We all must wait for Moshiach to come and be able to rise above the harshness of this golus. We see the how the goyim influence the Jews in Flatbush every single day, especially with the dressing, but is this any reason to throw your weight around and get the Goyim to bow to our whims? It’s bad enough that zoning in the area is being twisted around.


Written by frombrooklyn

June 29, 2007 at 6:32 AM

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Possible Bomb Factory in SI?

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Yeshiva World News is reporting here that a large amount of fertilizer used in bomb making has been found (2700 lbs to be exact) and that the Bomb Squad was going in.

Written by frombrooklyn

June 29, 2007 at 6:19 AM

Have a good Shabbas and…

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…and enjoy yourselves.

While Summer is here, and therefore we have more free time, we will be away for a little while. Expect us to be back to our normal every day posting soon. Just been busy with everything. Thank you all for continuing to come and visit here (all 30k+ of you since we opened in January) and we’ll be back with more articles and comments soon.

/Husband and Wife

Written by frombrooklyn

June 22, 2007 at 1:15 PM

Posted in From us

My answers to my questions

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Okay, here we go…

Why are people condemned because of their parents?

Because people judge others on their families. While families can indicate sometimes how a person is going to be and act, it doesn’t mean they will be like them…esp. when it comes to being religious. BTs or Gerim anyone? Oh I’m sorry Flatbush has an allergic reaction to those….

Why are people condemned for having a tv/computer?

You get condemned because no one knows how to put on a bloody filter, logger, and make sure the PC or TV is in a centrally located area of the home which can be secured in case you go away and leave your HS child home alone/alone with neighbors (which you should NEVER EVER DO)

Why are kids thrown out of school for having a tv/computer at home?

Schools are idiotic if they believe that people don’t have them at home. Open your eyes, understand we are in the 20th century and USE THE TOOLS FOR THE POWER OF GOOD. NOT FOR THE EVILS OF THE WATCHTOWERS.

Why are Yeshivas turning a blind eye to how they educate our children?

$$$, oh and yeah $$$. They care more about the rep of the school than they do for the education of each child.

Why do our schools care more about the money than the education?

Because $ = Rep = Power in Community. Who cares if you keep a child in the school who should of been thrown out but his parents are going to help buy that new school building…it just means the rest of his class get a subpar education because he knows and the class knows his parents have bought ya.

Why is it that the rich parents can buy their children out of trouble?

Because its pocket change?

Why are Ravs still not conducting true background checks on all teachers?

Afraid they might have to fire half of their teachers. Plus, if they get documented that they are working for a school maybe they might have to report their paychecks?

Why is it that skirts are so damn short on Yeshivish Women?

It isn’t that they are short, it just happens to be that Yeshivish Women go out and buy skirts in the stores that they like, you know the popular goyish stores, and they want to make sure they can show off their legs that are nicely smoothed and shaped and how can they show off their terrific body if they can’t hike up their skirt to the point that they could show that leg off? It’s just that they take it too further.

But beyond that why wouldn’t a little girl grow up to wear those clothes if their 40 year old mother is wearing it too while walking next to her husband who looks like he just walked out of a lecture hall leading a shiur to yeshiva boys?

Why is it that White Skirts are allowed if they are see through?

They forget to wear slips underneith them…if the Yeshivish Women of Ave J want to show off their underwear (esp when they wear dark ones) it’s their call…however I just heard recently that a lot of young bochurs are complaining of whiplash in the neck.

Why is it that a skirt when you walk is fine below the knee but everyone forgets what happens when they sit on the bus and a guy is sitting right across from them with a perfect view?

Because they don’t realize it, and it isn’t their fault that they don’t realize it…they don’t mean to…however they should realize they should be wearing better skirts for tznius reasons.

Why is it that BY HS Girls rub up against guys on the bus? (true story and no, not telling which friend told me that one)

And why am I asking a why on this? Of course at least we know she isn’t lezz…B”H for that. I mean with all the overnights, end of the year campouts these girl schools do…this is when you learn that your daughter enjoys saving water by showering with a friend.

Why is it that all of these ‘learning seminars, groups, speakers, etc’ speak to the audiance like we are dumb?

Because Torah has been locked up and turned into ‘opinion speak’ and the only way to get ‘opinion speak’ to the masses is to speak to them dumbly because if you talked to them as if they were smart then they might wise up that the halacha they are being told is really opinion not halacha

Why is it that the Ravs cannot understand they are supposed to just psak, not give their opinion into the psak?

Because it started after WW2 and they wanted to protect us from America, the problem is who is now going to protect us from their opinion driven halacha instead of halacha driven halacha?

Why do we continue to put down BTs or Gerim?

Because chas v’shalom that their children should marry someone without yichus…who cares if Rabbi Akiva wouldn’t find a shidduch among the affluent Yeshivish in NY just because his parents were gerim

Why do we tell our children how they should shidduch date and who they should shidduch date?

Because no one remembers the fact that the opinion of scholors hundreds to thousands of years ago was that a person should select their shidduch…even the Gemara says a girl needs to say yes and pick when she is above 12 and a guy for when he is above 13…I must of missed the Rashi that said that the parents get to give them a list and they get to select from someone on their list.

Wake up parents, this is your child’s life. Let them look, explore, and get to know the other person BY THEMSELVES! And if you don’t like their choice too bad…aint your choice. You had yours. If you don’t like yours thats your choice. You made your bed now go sleep in it.

Why do Shabbas Table Clothes and Clean Up have to be brought into a Shadchan List of Questions?

If you don’t think this is wrong then please see a mental health professional

Why does the girl need to give her entire measurements in order to be read to someone?

Because have to know she is sexier, hotter, and a better 3 second ride than the next one. Who cares if she is smart, caring, and an actual conversationalist all you are marrying her for is the bragging rights, the children, and the lights closed sex.

Why is it that perfectly smart wonderful girls cannot find a shidduch just because they are smart and want a true college education and job?

Men get afraid that there are women out there who are actually as smart or smarter than they are and will wise up and tell them that they actually need to help around the house and work their butts off to provide for their families.

Why is it that Kollel People don’t realize that they need to find a way to bring home the money?

Because Emma and Abba will always be there to pay!

Why is it that Kollel Men waste time outside smoking or drinking coffee for half an hour or longer each day when they are supposed to be inside learning?

What? You aren’t supposed to? Didn’t Rav Yehudah HaNasi do that with his talmidim way back when?

Why is it that the Ravs can’t have the guts to finally make smoking against halacha due to its harmful sideeffects? (True story of a famous Rav in Israel stating he wouldn’t rule on it because he believed it was like snuff and therefore not healthy to do but if he ruled then too many adicts would be going against halacha)

What? Base halacha on halacha and not on opinions? The shock! You’d mock the entire post WW2 basis of halacha for all

Why do we need to outdo one another in the making of simchas?

Because I gotta a bigger…

Why can’t NY People say Good Shabbas to one another on the street?

Someone might report me that I talked to someone outside my social circle and my daughter might never find a husband…..

Why is it that there are over 4 Eruvs in Flatbush and none are kosher? (been told one at least is according to Rav Moshe but no Yeshivish Rav is willing to say anything about it)

Women go to shul? NEVER! Only the single pretty ones who we can hit on can go! We don’t want to see our married wives and kids there!

Why can’t an Eruv be made that everyone could agree with so we can allow our women to not be homebound?

See above

Written by frombrooklyn

June 15, 2007 at 5:25 AM

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What would you do if this was your child?

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You go to PTA, find out that the teacher has been telling the truth. You haven’t been supervising your child’s HW all year, you don’t know when he or she does their work, every time the teacher calls to complain you blow them off and take your child’s side….and now instead of being an A student you have a B or C student. What would you do, still take your child’s side or finally confess and apologise to the teacher for the arrogance you had and the failure you did as a parent for the school year?

Written by frombrooklyn

June 8, 2007 at 12:35 PM

Posted in Humble, Schooling, Teaching

To those who are interested…

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…I will be answering my own questions soon, since a couple of blogs decided to take my questions I asked about ‘Flatbush’ and run with them.

Expect it after the weekend.

Written by frombrooklyn

June 8, 2007 at 12:31 PM

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Today I deleted a blog off my roll

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And I was saddened.

The Blog I had to delete was Jewish Bisexual. Why? Because of flaming idiots out there on the internet who would rather go and bash her instead of just ignoring her if they didn’t like what she said.

It is very sad that so many people had the idiocy gene within them activated and had an inability to control themselves.

If you dont like something, why go and read it? Why bother the person just because you wish to bash them?

The Jewish World needs to realize that we are in an era where our personal Jew Bashing is at its ‘best’. I doubt that even the hatred between Jews that caused the destruction of the Bais Hamikdashim could equal what we do to other Jews in this era.

Written by frombrooklyn

June 8, 2007 at 12:31 PM

Posted in From us, Sad