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One of the forums we read brought up the topic of cheating

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This thread brought us to this post. There are differing opinions as to the extent of cheating/swinging that goes on in the Jewish Communities. While some of you may of heard of the stories coming out of Deal, NJ or Kollel Wives entertaining themselves in the mornings, or even of the AIDS support group for married woman in Boro Park…it is hard to believe. However as Jews we need to actually start to attend to the serious problms that are blighting our communities. These kind of actions tear apart families and chas v’shalom can cause families to not be kosher…so, what can we do about it at all? Or is this another topic that’ll fall on deaf years like the real issues behind the shidduch problems, the older single problems, the Jewish Schools not accepting, and the lack of achdus amongst fellow Jews?


Written by frombrooklyn

March 12, 2007 at 4:41 AM

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  1. I’m sure it happens, How much is hard to say. Most people who are cheating are probably keeping it to themselves.

    Is this a new thing, no. A few years back I was reading some old records from the Rome Beit Din and there were a bunch that centered around an engaged couple where it was alleged that the Kallah was sleeping around. Mind you these records were dated around 1552.

    Zach Kessin

    March 13, 2007 at 12:15 PM

  2. That is true, but these issues are real, and the Rabbis need to begin to start focusing on them


    March 13, 2007 at 2:01 PM

  3. I’m not sure what exactly the rabbis could do. I think everyone knows that this is forbidden, but they are doing it anyway. Basicly the rabbis are in the position of a london cop “Stop, Or I’ll say Stop again”.

    I don’t mean to make light of this. but it is very hard to take useful action against something that happens behind closed doors in secret.

    Zachary Kessin

    March 13, 2007 at 8:14 PM

  4. They could do something by actually addressing the issues in an open forum, set up helplines for couples who are having marital problems, and to be proactive about the divorce rate in the Jewish Orthadox Communities


    March 14, 2007 at 3:41 PM

  5. Kollel Lakewood Id absolutley not a kollel..The leaders are only interested in the pesel..If you can support a son-in law who does not know anything .zilch in learning..One must go to lakewood and you will notice that the whole kollel is a big farce with all of its branches situated bechol ha-olam…They the leaders cannot function at any pulpit synagogue.all they can do is stand in the shemonei esrai for fifteen minutes or longer and waste others time..Enough of this bull crap.

    Shmuel yehonassan kal

    June 11, 2007 at 5:51 PM

  6. If any one is looking for a shidduch in lakewood .let me tell you in plain english..You are wasting your hard earn money..Those who are learning in lakewood know very little.and cannot do any thing with their knowledge…All these rachmana student are abusing the system and getting free money where it should not be given…Better not make any donation to lakewood kollel at all

    Shmuel yehonassan kal

    June 11, 2007 at 5:54 PM

  7. I am here at a forum newcomer. Until I read and deal with the forum.
    Let’s learn!


    December 4, 2008 at 2:21 AM

  8. Nothing seems to be easier than seeing someone whom you can help but not helping.
    I suggest we start giving it a try. Give love to the ones that need it.
    God will appreciate it.


    January 22, 2009 at 3:36 AM

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