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Had a conversation with someone yesterday

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And its one that I have a lot with people.

Why do kids behave the way they do in Yeshivas and what we should do about it?

It saddens me to hear the usual prolific response which says ‘they’ll grow out of it’ ‘boys will be boys’ ‘they’re good in Hebrew and they work hard all day so..’

If you knew who I was you would see me tearing by head out and banging my head against the wall.

I am a teacher, hear me now. Hear me roar, yell, scream, dictate, and hammer into the think skulls of every Jewish Parent out there with the following statement.

“Children need to learn 1) Self Control 2) Respect and 3) The correct way to behave. Especially boys. Why? Because do you want to wait till they get to HS to see what they might really act like? Do you want to wait till they in their late 20s before they are mature enough to get married? Do you really wish to see your Son have to behave like a Behamah until he gets married and hopes he doesn’t act that way to his wife?

Does anyone understand my statement? That children, starting from the ages of around 11, begin to get their body towards puberty. The chemicals and hormones going through their blood will begin to affect how they’ll be till the end of their lives. Likes, dislikes, how they act, all of this will become a part of themselves for all intents and purposes for the rest of their lives. If they learn what is right and what is wrong and that they are reinforced to do what is right then you will have a child who iyh will grant you much simcha in the future. However if a child doesn’t learn not to do what is wrong, you might find yourself going to the HS every other week or finding a new school for your Son because he can’t stop hitting other students or stealing items from fellow school mates.


Written by frombrooklyn

February 8, 2007 at 4:35 PM

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