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It takes two in a marriage

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sometimes the sex is just for dh and you dont need to be all that into it to make him happy. just tell him to go for it and not have to worry about pleasing you. and after 5 minutes youll feel exactly the same (nauseous and tired ) but at least have a happy dh.

So the above quote is from a forum I frequent on an almost daily basis. And it made me steamed.

Are there any sane people out there in the world?

We don’t understand the concept, especially when it comes to something as intimate as that, why would you do that to yourself? Go and do something like that when you dislike it? The entire purpose is to have mutual pleasure. To be able to make one another feel good. Just because one of them is needing something it does not give that spouse the right to just ‘make the other do it’.

And please, don’t tell us about ‘oh if you love the other its okay and no one should feel bad’ – come on and wake up! It is taking advantage of the one you have called your bshert. To take the most intimate thing that a husband and wife can do and just make it for one person should be unthinkable.

Just another random ramble but still…we don’t understand. How can people think that this is the right thing to do?


Written by frombrooklyn

February 8, 2007 at 12:54 AM

Posted in Marriage

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